Today I had to run some simple errands- the beauty supply store, Cost-Co and Meijer. Easy enough. But, in fact, it was not simple enough. Today was just one of those days. The kind of days that only someone who has experienced the brutality of infertility can understand. It was pregnant woman's day out. Everywhere I looked, bulging bellies and infants in there snug little carriers. You couldn't swing a wine bottle with out smacking someone, or mutter a really decent explicative with out a mother-to-be covering their stomach and giving me a dirty look. (My favorite on these days is Fucking Fornicators)
Of course under all this stress a movie-style panic attack bat at me like those tiny baby fists. As my head was swirling and my heart was pounding, I headed straight for the liquor aisle. It's not what you think. It's a safe zone. A baby free zone. (However being surrounded by glass in this state isn't a great idea, but the pillow aisle was too far away- and I think they frown upon people scream into pillows that you have not intention of buying) I stayed there for a while resting. I tried to que up calming music on my ipod, and when that didn't work, I went to angry music- good screw you! music. I decided since I was already in the aisle I'd grab some possibly necessary bottles and then get the hell out of there. I charged my way through the rest of the store, sporting what must have been a great snarling look because most people had the sense to part like the frickin' Red Sea.
After I got into my car, I rested my head on the steering wheel, bawling. Then, I did what every self sufficient adult does, I called my mommy. I cried and bitched my way back to sanity. (Thanks for listening Ma) These days are par for the course in the bleak wold of infertility. It wasn't the first and I'm certain it won't be the last.
Little Wonders
For Katy and Matt. May you realize that each step of this is a little wonder, a small miracle. We love you! ~Kelly & Ben
Friday, April 16
Thursday, April 15
Tick-tock
So, this past Monday we had our Mock ET and Sonohystogram. It seemed to go really well. It was great to go through this with Kelly. I actually laughed, truly laughed, during the appointment. I thought it went really well.
A schedule was tentatively set for the end-ish of May. I like having a plan and time frame. It seems to help me keep the priories straight, you know? This next, then that. It allows for an illusion of control and who doesn't love that?
The next step will be a few days after Kelly's next cycle starts. Days later she'll start the meds, a series of shots, vag suppositories and pills followed by 2 or 3 days of ultrasounds and E2's (estrogen testing). The end date won't be scheduled until the last minute. So...take a deep breath and let's go!
A schedule was tentatively set for the end-ish of May. I like having a plan and time frame. It seems to help me keep the priories straight, you know? This next, then that. It allows for an illusion of control and who doesn't love that?
The next step will be a few days after Kelly's next cycle starts. Days later she'll start the meds, a series of shots, vag suppositories and pills followed by 2 or 3 days of ultrasounds and E2's (estrogen testing). The end date won't be scheduled until the last minute. So...take a deep breath and let's go!
Sunday, April 11
"Oh boy. What did we just do?"
That was thought after finding out that my husband and I were pregnant with #2. Mind you, we were trying and we thought we'd have 3 kids so why would this be the thought that entered my mind? Here's my rationale: with our first pregnancy we were stupid. All we knew was we wanted a family so we started trying. As soon as you start trying all you focus on (by 'you' I mean the woman because I'm sure the man is just focusing on the next time he can fertilize the field) is finding out if you're pregnant. Because we nailed it the first time there weren't too many emotions to deal with, opportunity for doubt or second guessing. My famous quote/philosophy about marriage, pregnancy, birthing, and raising kids is simply: You don't know until you know; you may think you know - but you don't know. There are only 2 types of reactions to that statement, 1) you're laughing, you get it and you know I'm right...you can think of all the things people said to you about marriage, pregnancy, and kids that you kind of blew off or thought you were sooooo smart and it wouldn't be that way for you and then it was! 2) you have a 'ya right lady' look on your face because you're soooo smart and it won't be that way for you. To that I simply and smugly say: just wait.
Movin' down the line
So Friday I spoke to Christine, our Donor Coordinator, at length about where we are. I feel really lucky to have her being the one to do the hand holding here. She really knows her stuff and is very personable. She calms me and excepts my humor that often is inappropriate. It's very exciting and nerve wracking how fast all of this will move after Monday's appointment. So much so fast. I'm almost glad that it's going to be as fast as it is. The waiting can be excruciating, especially when you involve a third party. I am getting a little panicky about the whole thing but I think that's normal- so many emotions at one time, and having no control. It's stress, but exciting stress. I'll let you all know how Monday's appointment goes as soon as I can.
Friday, April 9
MOCK (not like mocking, but like practice)
So Monday is the next big step. I'm getting kind of nervous actually. I A very weird situation in which I don't have a precedent for how I'm supposed to feel, act, or react. So, I'm just trying to go with the flow and take it one day at a time. It's all just so odd, will it ever feel normal? I doubt it but that's okay. The process is a gift in its self, not to mention the miracle Kelly and Ben are offering us even if it doesn't work.
The other part of me is getting ansty in the pantsy. I'm excited. I know each step so well now that I feel like I can offer Kelly the appropriate support with the coordinating procedure. Monday isn't really a difficult thing. It's a practice run basically. They figure out all the tools (the size of the catheter use to transfer the egg etc) to use so they can, ah, jump right in there (?) on the day of the embryo transfer. They also perform what's called a Sonohystogram. It sounds much more scary than it is. It is just an ultrasound with a full bladder to get a really good picture of the cervix. It's just uncomfortable because you really, really have to pee.
I feel like I should be bringing Kelly something to entertain her during the procedure. I could read her a book, or maybe bring her a muffin basket? I wonder if she likes lemon poppy seed or prefers blueberry. Sorry, I digress, so things start to really get moving after Monday's appointment. Maybe a hot beverage? No, she'll already have to pee. I can't really give her a gift 'cause that's illegal. Who makes gift giving illegal? I get people sometime over do it, sorry Kelly, I can't afford to buy you a car but thanks for the baby!
The other part of me is getting ansty in the pantsy. I'm excited. I know each step so well now that I feel like I can offer Kelly the appropriate support with the coordinating procedure. Monday isn't really a difficult thing. It's a practice run basically. They figure out all the tools (the size of the catheter use to transfer the egg etc) to use so they can, ah, jump right in there (?) on the day of the embryo transfer. They also perform what's called a Sonohystogram. It sounds much more scary than it is. It is just an ultrasound with a full bladder to get a really good picture of the cervix. It's just uncomfortable because you really, really have to pee.
I feel like I should be bringing Kelly something to entertain her during the procedure. I could read her a book, or maybe bring her a muffin basket? I wonder if she likes lemon poppy seed or prefers blueberry. Sorry, I digress, so things start to really get moving after Monday's appointment. Maybe a hot beverage? No, she'll already have to pee. I can't really give her a gift 'cause that's illegal. Who makes gift giving illegal? I get people sometime over do it, sorry Kelly, I can't afford to buy you a car but thanks for the baby!
Monday, April 5
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