I swear I just can't handle today. I hurt. I hurt bad. I'm crying every whip-stitch. It's just one of the bad days. I enjoyed a few hours of yesterday and maybe I will enjoy a few more tomorrow. I'm getting through today by dint of putting one foot in front of the other, and when I can't do that, I just breathe minute by minute. It makes for a long day. An exhausting day for sure.
I've been down this road of heartache so often I've worn out a path. Now I have another companion as I walk. Kelly and I are holding together and stumbling together. Though we have distance between us, I feel her here. I feel her hand in mine and her shoulder propping up my wearied head. I feel her in my arms as she grieves too.
It is hard to be physically away from Matt too. I didn't feel this as strong the other times. Even when I'm exhausted and want to be in bed, I curl into him on the couch. When I feel his arm drape across the length of my body I feel as though he is holding me together; keeping the sorrow from ripping my heart to pieces. I miss him when he's not here.
My sister, who has experienced the keen pain of loss, has been wonderful. She's allowed me to indulge my less than polite side. To complain about the things people say, when they feel they need to say something, to allow me to cry without making me feel pitied. She's offers gentle reassurance and realistic comments and advice. She has been amazing.
I want to hide, to climb under the covers and ignore life and the spinning of the earth, but life continues and obligations file in and pile up. Obligations that don't care that my heart is bruised and that I feel like I can't catch my breath. Life can be a cruel bitch when all you want to do is indulge your bitterness and sorrow.
I dread facing people and having to hear the "maybe it was meant to be speech" or the "you can always adopt" talk. I hate this because these are rational and practical comments but, heart break, is not rational, it is not practical, it is a wound, like any other. It requires time and rest. Words do not fix a broken bone, nor a broken heart. The kindest words are the fewest. "We love you and we are sorry this didn't work out. We'll pray for you"
Despite my rant, we really do appreciate the out pouring of support. When we read each touching and humorous comment the tears change from those of pain to those of love. It is great to know how we are not only surrounded but swaddled in people who love and care for us. We don't have adequate words of thanks for you. So I will just say this: We are blessed and humbled to be so loved by such amazing people. Thank you for the support throughout, not for just us but to Kelly and Ben as well.
And to Kelly and Ben: You are two of the most special people God has ever created. We knew that when we agreed to try but each day has been an affirmation of what a gift you are to the world. I will continue to treasure you friendship that has been woven firmly into my life, Kelly. If any thing, that friendship, will continue. I love you and yours.
Little Wonders
For Katy and Matt. May you realize that each step of this is a little wonder, a small miracle. We love you! ~Kelly & Ben
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You are covered in Love, your bitter disapointment is shared by those who love you very much. Aunt Kay
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